I use this word in posts, and it merits a separate post all about it.
I realize that the word “queer” sounds offensive to some people. However, many people (especially in my generation) feel that queer is the most empowering word to describe our own identity.
Going through the acronym is usually still the most politically correct way to refer to LGBTQIA – lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transexual, queer/questioning, intersex, ally people, but it’s pretty cumbersome. And when you’re using the acronym, how do you decide where to stop? There are more letters to add, like P for polyamory, O for omnisexual, TS for two-spirited, etc. Now doesn’t it seem simpler to just say queer!? Many people just use LGBT for simplicity, but that leaves people out.
Also, many of us can’t claim one of the words in this acronym. I don’t identify as bisexual because it sets up a gender binary that I don’t believe exists – implying that a person can simply be attracted to men AND women, keeping these categories distinct and separate. Gender is obviously way more complicated than two boxes, as other letters in the acronym point out.
Queer is also something that even straight people can be! People who are in a relationship with (or generally attracted to) someone of a different gender, but don’t have a traditional heterosexual relationship (non-traditional gender roles, or non-traditional commitment, e.g.) can identify as queer. Or someone, like me, who is in a relationship with someone of a clearly different gender, but who does not identify as straight – I can be queer all the time, regardless of my partner.
Queer is a label, an identity, a movement, an invitation (though it still sounds awful when it comes out of a homophobic mouth).
While these perceptions are often age-related, they transcend age as well. What words do you use to describe yourself? What words has your community reclaimed?
Filed under: uncategorized on August 18th,
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